1. Be still. What’s the problem, girl?
Stillness is something I struggle with EVERY day, especially when I’m anxious. In fact, I sort of think writing this blog post is just another distraction from my feelings and I kind of feel like a huge hypocrite, but I’ll address that later on my own.
Either something’s up, or nothing’s up. If nothing’s up, congratulations. Keep feeling grateful and truckin’ on. If something’s up, congratulations too–you’re about to make some major progress. Move on to the next step.
2. What do you want instead?
Maybe you won’t know yet. That’s okay. Don’t force it, it will come eventually. If you do know, what is it?
3. What can you do to get it?
Brainstorm. Take this seriously and focus. Come up with as many ideas as you can. If you find one that feels shiny or magical or helpful, do it. If negative emotion remains afterwards, continue.
4. Do a focus wheel.
This can be done on paper. First, you write a statement about where you are/how you feel. In your mind’s eye, you keep the opposite, positive thought active. Then, you start writing things that support that positive thought and that you BELIEVE (this is essential). This gets quite fun. I might post some personal focus wheels later, but in the meantime, just click on the link above.
If writing isn’t your thing or you just don’t feel like doing the written version, you can also simply intend that today, you will notice evidence that the thing that you want is already in your life.
5. Focus on high vibe stuff.
Focus on the new affirmations that you’ve created with your focus wheel. Go on an information diet. Consciously withdraw your attention from negativity. Declutter. When you give your attention to something, more similar things present themselves to you. Be aware of this and focus on positivity.
6. Once you feel great, take action.
Now is the time to take action, because 1. it will be fun and inspired, and 2. it will create tangible evidence in your life that will make it easier to believe what you want to believe.
Here is an example:
1. How am I feeling? I’m feeling anxious.
2. What do I want instead? I want to feel safe.
3. How can I feel safe? I can open my playlist of relaxing songs. I can call my mom. I can call a friend. I can lock my door. I can turn on the light. I can watch a movie. I can curl up in bed under some blankets. I can open the door so I hear sounds from outside. I can go to a coffee shop and be around other people.
4. Do a focus wheel for “I am safe,” starting from “I am scared.” Then, notice how safe I am throughout the day.
5. Give my attention to anything and everything that is positive. My focus wheel has provided me with some new affirmations that I can focus on, such as “I do have a few good friends who care about me” or “Nothing has ever happened in my life that was not exactly what I needed.”
6. Once I’m in a better feeling place, I might be inspired to pick up my guitar, or do some groceries, or clean my room, or organize a camping trip with some friends. It could really be anything, and it doesn’t matter what. But in all cases, no matter how subtle, the outcome will be a memory or a thought (or even something physical like a picture from said camping trip) that will make it easier to feel safe and supported from now on.
Like I said, I still struggle with the first step, but I know this method works. It helps me feel like I have a game plan, like I’m building momentum. I’m still working on making this process as fun as possible, because I tend to not do focus wheels if I don’t think they’ll be fun. BUT I did do one the other day for feeling “loved, supported and trusting of the Universe” that was amazingly fun. I recommend!